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One of my friends from GRN shared this video with me on Facebook and I thought that it was crewl but but not so crewl that it wasn't still very funny. Enjoy Richard

One of the things that really ticks me off, is smart alec answers.

I'm not trying to be a kill joy here. I don't mean the sort of answers that you get when you've made a sarcastic comment or cracked a funny.

I do mean the sort of answer you get when you've asked a serious question.

For example: when I ask my wife if she has seen one of my tools that I was using around the house and the answer I get is "I don't use them".

Now seriously, the chances are that I was using it to fix something that would benefit the household and I get a stupid comment like that. All I am asking for is some help and instead I get a smart alec comment.

Even If I were asking for something for myself, what's wrong in asking for some help? Why should I expect to be belittled?I accept that I'm a little sensitive about this as I even remember my mother saying to me "I didn't wear it" or "I didn't take it off" when I enquired as to the whereabouts of some article of clothing or item I used to play with.
I understand that it was a product of our time and that these sort of comments are made because that is what we have been taught to say by our parents. But as brilliant as they were my parents did not get everything right and I think this is one of those occasions.

Everyone is entitled to ask for some help sometimes and they should not expect a sarcastic answer when they do.

So next time that you feel tempted to give a smart alec reply to someone who has asked you a question, how about stopping and asking yourself, "does this person deserve this or should I just give the help thy are asking for?

And that goes double if you are dealing with children.

Richard.

One of the things that I often see from well meaning but misguided adults is the attempt to gain a child's favour by tickling or worse still by rough play.

I've seen adults walk into a room immediately pick up a child under 2 rough him up (without hurting him after all this is fun and you don't want to hurt anybody) then put the child down. Then as soon as the child approaches start it all up again. The child loves it. But a few minutes later when the adults wants to stop the child tries to continue and get into trouble for it.

I know that as a Judo instructor I may be a bit more sensitive to this sort of thin than others but consider this. Not only that but when the child plays with other children and tries to play rough they get into trouble for it.

Why is the child getting into trouble for what the adult has taught them to do? The child is totally confused! He is only doing what he has been taught.

Lets look at what has been taught here: The adult walks in and greets the child with not a hug but a tickle or rough play. They now think that this is the correct way to great people.The major interaction that they child gets is tickling or rough play. "Oh OK that is we are supposed to interact with others" thinks the child.

If you don't want a child to react to others in this way don't teach it too them.

So the next time you walk into a room with a child why not just give them a hug hello (or just High five if you are not close to the parents).

There is nothing wrong with some appropriate play but why not temper it with some gentle play. More importantly why not just spend some time with the child.

The only self defence that a child can have against this sort of learning is for the adult to intervene and explain to the offending adult the way things are done.

Lead by example.

Richard

This is a site called Rev Fun. As a Christian one has to be very careful about poking fun at your faith however I really like this site and I not only find that the cartoons are funny but also sometimes very insightful. At their best they are not only insightful but pointed and not just to the non Christian.

I have included an updating sample of the cartoons I hope you like them as much as I do.

Richard

I just thought that I would like to do what little I can to push a couple of websites that I'm very keen on.

The first sites is kids life. A membership based site that costs nothing to join, it has a regular on line newsletter that you get notified about. This newsletter has a great deal of wonderful information on raising kids and helping with their education.

I find some of the information a little obvious at times and other times the information is a little too psudo intellectual, but mostly it is really good information. And whilst the information is mostly relevant to anybody world wide, one of its most useful components for those of us that live in Australia, is that it is an Australian publication, so you are not left wondering if you can get any further detail here in Australia.

The other site is also an Australian site but is relevant to teenagers or young adults. Called Reach out it is designed to let young people know that no matter what there problem is they are not alone. And what's more they can read about others going through the same thing. As well young people can use the site to seek further help.</